Your coaching journey: What and where now?

It can be daunting to end a coaching relationship, especially if you have had a significant number of sessions with your coach. Your coach has been there as a kind of safety net, keeping you on the right track. It will be normal to be nervous about what will come next.

However, during the coaching you will have learned many things. You will have now a much increased awareness of what you want, who you are, what are your strengths, blind spots.

You will have learned that you can achieve because you should have already achieved a lot with the coaching you had.

Lastly, the coaching has allowed you to build your confidence. Take that new found confidence, nurture it and be aware of it when you tackle, on your own, your next goal.

You should by now be your own coach. The questioning and tools your coach has used and that you have learned are there for you to use anytime. Are you ready? Go ahead, make the life you want to have. You have your support network, as mentioned in a previous post and if you get stuck, your coach is there for a helping hand. But try yourself first, don’t become dependent on a coach, even on the best one in the world.

Your coaching journey: What is different now?

A coaching relationship is temporary, It can be three, 12 or 30 sessions, might be two months or two years depending on your goal, but it has to end.

Although you usually sign up for a defined umber of sessions, it could be easy to become dependent on your coach and some less than scrupulous coaches could take advantage of this to ensure revenue from you as long as they can. A serious coach must avoid you build a dependency.

The coaching relationship has to evolve in a way that there is a natural end to it, however strong the relationship may be.

So, at some point it means that as a coachee, you need to begin a serious work of assimilating what you get from the coaching. My advice would actually be to do this regularly during the coaching and your coach should ensure it happens.

Take stock of what is and how you are different from at the beginning of the coaching. The aim of coaching is for you to learn, grow, develop and become more aware.

Reflect on how all these have happened. If you feel no progress is made and it is a fair assessment, the coaching relationship needs to be questioned. What is not working? What would make it better? Is it better to end the relationship?

Coaching is to make you a better person, the person you want to be. Make sure it is the case.